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Kakav ste tip mame na osnovu vašeg horoskopskog znaka?

Koliko puta ste rekli sebi: “Ja nisam taj tip mame”? (sigurno kada vas vaša mama izluđuje). Vjerovali, ili ne to je povezano sa vašim horoskopskim znakom pa su razlike neminovne. (Ne smijte se, zvijezde su ozbiljna stvar) Hajde, zabavite se…

Sara Velaga

Koliko puta ste rekli sebi: “Ja nisam taj tip mame”?

(sigurno kada vas vaša mama izluđuje).

Vjerovali, ili ne to je povezano sa vašim horoskopskim znakom pa su razlike neminovne. (Ne smijte se, zvijezde su ozbiljna stvar)

Hajde, zabavite se i otkrijte kakav ste tip mame na osnovu zodijaka.

Ovan

Strengths as a mom: Confidence, self-awareness, strength, and fearlessness Weaknesses as a mom: Competitiveness, anger, tunnel vision, obsessiveness, vanity and self-centeredness Your parenting style: "Hello, warrior mama! Because the Aries mother does everything with a fierce signature style, you'll charge into parenthood headfirst, intent on leaving your mark. Ruled by red-hot Mars, Aries approach everything in life as if going into battle—alive, alert, and in it to win it. Motherhood's not for sissies, and good thing you've never fit that description. There's a diva in every Aries woman, and your confidence never leaves you for long—even if that diva happens to have a milk stain on her Fendi jacket or Ritz bits in her blowout. The strangest part of motherhood, especially in the early years, is experiencing another human being's total dependence on you. Aries is one of the most self-directed signs, and you're comfortable putting your own needs first. But ranking another person's agenda before your own—and a tiny person's at that? Well, that takes a bit of an adjustment. No matter how much you adore your little chickadee, one thing is clear: you are two distinct and separate human beings. Frankly, that is a healthy attitude for the most part. Although you may be guilty of expecting too much self-sufficiency from your kids, you're great at modeling that very trait for them. Aries never asks for permission to be yourself or to pursue your goals. A martyr mom you ain't! Forever achieving and striving, you're a powerful role model of lifelong learning, a one-woman accomplishment machine—the ultimate glass-ceiling breaker."

Prednosti: Samopouzdanje, samosvjesnost, poštenje i snaga

Slabosti: Ljutitost, ranjivost, sebičnost, konkurentnost

Stil roditeljstva: Mama ratnica! Mame ovnovi su bijesne, samouvjerene i vole naređivati. S obzirom da njima vlada vatrena planeta Mars, one svemu u životu pristupaju kao borbi u kojoj trebaju pobijediti. One su dive, koje žele odrediti pravila kojih će se djeca pridržavati. Čak iako to podrazumijeva stil dive, sa ostacima dječije hrane u kosi. Najteži im pada shvatanje da novo ljudsko biće ovisi o njima, jer su navikli da svu pažnju usmjeravaju na sebe. Stoga se mama ovan uči prilagođavanju, dijeljenju pažnje i ljubavi sa novim bićem. Međutim, ta doza samouvjerenosti i autoritativnosti dobro djeluje na njenu djecu, jer djeca majki ovnova na vrijeme uče pravila. Kasnije postaju i sama samouvjerena i izgrađuju svoj karakter.

Bik

Strengths as a mom: Stability, good taste, common sense, hard worker Weaknesses as a mom: Indulgence, materialism, mood swings, vanityYour parenting style: "Taurus is the original "mullet mama"—business in the front, party in the back. Some days, you lead with a stern demeanor that puts the fear of God, traffic, and creepy strangers in your kid. But once you're sure everyone's safe and sound, it's party time! The Taurus mother is selectively staunch and, yes, downright rigid on a couple of key issues. There's an old-fashioned girl in every Taurus, and you simply won't budge on a few of your standards. But behind that firm facade is a bawdy nature goddess who's refreshingly down to earth. You're the mom who might force your kids to stay in Sunday school until adulthood but will also let them witness a home birth or ride a motorcycle when they're twelve.Taurus is the zodiac's budgeter and wise spender. You believe in return on investment. So if you devote years of your life to raising a child, you expect to be acknowledged for it! You'll raise your kids to have good manners, respect authority, and if possible, to idolize you. At the very least, you intend to occupy a VIP pedestal marked mother for the rest of their lives. While you hope to be close with your children, you won't sacrifice respect to be their best friend. There's a (well-manicured) iron fist in that Italian leather glove—even if it takes a lot for you to raise that fist. As long as your kids don't embarrass you publicly, violate one of your core values, or outright disrespect you, there shouldn't be any problems. Simple enough, right?Motherhood makes great use of your managerial qualities, which most Taurus women come by naturally. With your flair for practical details and businesslike nature, you're the COO of your clan. You love to run people's lives—heck, you've been doing it for your girlfriends and family long enough. The structured rhythm of child rearing feels natural to you, unlike for many other zodiac signs. Even Taurus moms who run late for social engagements (and we know quite a few) will never be tardy applying for an elite arts camp scholarship, getting on the private school waiting list, or planning a posh first birthday party for their little one (and his seventy-five closest aunts, uncles, cousins, et al.). When it comes to your top parenting priorities, you're as precise as a laser."

Prednosti: Stabilnost, dobar ukus, marljivost, zdrav razum

Slabosti: Povlađivanje, ranjivost, promjena raspoloženja, materijalizam

Stil roditeljstva: Bik je tipična multipraktična mama. Posao sa jedne strane i provod sa druge. Nekad ste toliko autoritativni da vas se djeca boje, ali kad ste sigurni da je sve kako treba, onda ste zabavni i posvećeni. Izvana ste hladni i čvrsti u svojim stavovima, ali unutar svake od vas se krije nježna mama, koja želi uraditi sve što je u njenoj moći za svoju djecu. Možda ćete očekivati previše od svoje djece, ali isto tako ćete im uzvratiti sve, dozvoljavajući im mnogo toga kada zasluže.

Bik je znak koji je racionalan u planiranju budžeta pa stoga vjerujete u povrat uloženog. Godine odgajanja djece za vas su ulaganje u budućnost, u kojima će se ona dokazati kao uspješni ljudi. Odgajate svoju djecu tako da poštuju autoritete, imaju manire, ali i da vas idealizuju po mogućnosti. Iako želite biti bliske sa svojom djecom, nećete žrtvovati poštovanje koje imaju prema vama, kako bi im bili prijateljica. Sve dok vas poštuju, ne prave probleme i ne sramote, nećete pretjerivati u svojoj strogoći i pravilima. Ali ako pređu granicu, postavljate kazne.

Majčinstvo je za mame bikove još jedna od glavnih uloga u životu. S obzirom na to da su fokusirane na posao, navikle su voditi glavnu riječ i biti liderke. Stoga su u svojim porodicama kao vođe klana, jer su takvu ulogu imale i prije majčinstva. Vama je majčinstvo prirodno i lako se prilagođavate novoj ulozi u svom životu, za razliku od ostalih znakova. Sve radite planski pa se gotovo nikad ne dešava da vaše dijete čeka na listi za upis, izlet ili neku aktivnost. Preciznost i planiranje su osim na poslovnom planu veoma važni i za vaš privatni život.

Blizanci

Strengths as a mom: Versatility, youthfulness, curiosity, open-mindedness, originality, creativity Weaknesses as a mom: Inconsistency, lack of boundaries, tendency to contradict self, impatience, talking or lecturing instead of listening Your parenting style: "Ah, to be a mom of many personalities—complex and even contradictory at times but certainly never boring. Such is the way of the Gemini mama, ruled by the zodiac's Twins. Varied and versatile, you keep your family guessing what you'll say or do next. There's never a dull moment under your roof—even though some household members wouldn't mind one every now and then! Since your standards can be subject to change without notice, your rigidity is tempered with a bold streak of the opposite. You'll scour the ingredient list of your baby wash but take the kid to a jazz club or raise her in a smog-filled metropolis. Let's face it: you can't help but contradict yourself at times. If you were totally principled, you wouldn't be an airy, unpredictable Gemini. So you might just buckle that rear-facing car seat into a Prius (adorned with peace-symbol and namaste bumper stickers), and drive your babe to an elite Mommy & Me group in the nicest part of town. Or your tightly run ship happens to be on an actual ship...because you've decide to spend your child's first yearliving on a houseboat. With Geminis, you just never know. While Geminis have a rep for being breezy and hard to pin down, they can actually be quite anxious. Your sign is ruled by Mercury,planet of communication and the intellect, so your brain simply never shuts off. As a result of all this mental energy, you might just be the most eccentric mom on the block—or the most opinionated. Hey, your brand of maternal instinct is a unique concoction."

Prednosti: Prilagodljivost, mladolikost, originalnost, kreativnost, znatiželjnost, otvorenost

Slabosti: Protivrječnost, nedostatak granica, kontradiktornost, nestrpljivost, potreba da pričate bez da saslušate druge

Stil roditeljstva: Vi ste mnoštvo različitih mama u jednoj. Sa vama nikad nije dosadno, jer ste kontradiktorni i skloni promjenama. Držite svoju porodicu u neizvjesnosti šta biste mogli uraditi sljedeće. Ne postoji prazan i suvoparan momenat pod vašim krovom, iako bi ostali članovi porodice nekad voljeli da ih bude. Vaš stil je promjenjivost, pa stoga djeca nikad ne znaju kako ćete reagovati. S jedne strane imaćete listu planova za vaše dijete, dok sa druge ono može da živi u zagađenom gradu i obilazi džez klubove sa vama. Jer kao što smo spomenuli, volite sami sebi protivrječiti.

To je karakteristika vašeg znaka, koja čini vaše dijete maksimalno zabavljenim svakim novim potezom njegove mame, odnosno vas. Merkur je planeta koja upravlja vašim znakom, pa su komunikativnost i intelekt dio vaše ličnosti. Jednostavno vaš mozak se nikad ne gasi pa možete izgledati kao najekscentričnija mama u komšiluku. Sa druge strane vi jednostavno imate mnogo mišljenja i stavova, koje želite podijeliti u svakom trenutku, što je svakako dobra stvar za vaše dijete.

Rak

Strengths as a mom: Sensitivity, comfort, good taste, devotion, sentimentality Weaknesses as a mom: Overprotectiveness, mood swings, fearfulness, jealousy Your parenting style: "As the sign that rules all things matriarchal, you're the zodiac's mother superior. For most Cancer women, maternal instincts are hardwired into their cosmic DNA. From an early age, you've been a nurturer—to friends, siblings, dolls, pets, anyone needing a maternal touch. Some signs are ambivalent about children, but most Cancer women feel they were born for the job. You're the mom who could have an at-home birth, train as a doula, and breast-feed your kid until as long as you please. Hello, La Leche League president! Your fourth house of motherhood is ruled by balanced, beauty-loving Libra, the sign of relationships. This gives you an idealistic approach to family—and a flair for creating a pretty, comfortable home. You're deeply invested in your relationship with your children and will likely be their lifelong confidante. Becoming a mother has healthy side effects for your social life. Since Cancers can be a little shy or reserved upfront, your kids provide the perfect excuse to engage with other parents. Your budding social circle could be filled with the moms of your children's friends or with families you meet through nursery school outings, PTA, and your children's sports teams. Talking about your kids lets you quietly screen people before deciding that they're worthy of your trust. When you hear their views on schooling, discipline, dietary limits, and the like, you get a keen sense of their values and whether they're compatible with yours. Eventually, you'll open up and start talking more about yourself with a few of them, allowing a genuine friendship to unfold. A true sign of trust is often when you invite someone into your home. There's no casual (play)dating happening in your household. Not just anyone makes it into a Cancer's sanctuary! Can you be a tiny bit of a snob? Yes. But Cancers are true-blue friends whose bonds be- come as close as family over time. You don't let people into your world easily—but once they're in, they're in. You expect a high degree of loyalty when you've opened your heart. Becoming your friend is a life sentence, and you'll cherish the bonds you form even more once children are in the picture."

Prednosti: Osjećajnost, dobar ukus, sentimentalnost, posvećenost, ugodnost

Slabosti: Promjenjivost raspoloženja, prezaštićenost, ljubomora, strah

Stil roditeljstva: Vi ste superiorna mama zodijaka, jer u sebi imate mnogo majčinskih osobina. Majčinski instinkt je u vama od malih nogu pa ste tako glumili mamu svojoj braći i sestrama, prijateljima, lutkama i kućnim ljubimcima. Jednostavno, vi ste oduvijek mama. Neki znakovi su ambivalentni po pitanju majčinstva, ali vi ste naprosto rođeni za tu ulogu. Mogli biste roditi kod kuće, ostati da dojite i brinete o djetetu sve dok ne odraste.

Vaše majčinstvo je u zoni kojom upravlja balansirana Vaga, znak veza. To vam daje mogućnost kreiranja savršenog doma i dobrog pristupa porodici. Mnogo ulažete u vaspitanje svoje djece i očekujete biti važan dio njihovog života i kada odrastu. S obzirom na to da ste stidljivi, majčinstvo vam pruža mogućnost povezivanja sa drugim ljudima i komunikaciju na suptilniji način. Stoga se najčešće družite sa drugim mamama, usklađivajući pritom svoj stil roditeljstva sa njihovim. Volite razgovarati o pravilima, disciplini i vaspitanju, kako bi ulagali više u svoje dijete.

Ne dopuštate ljudima da lako uđu u vaš život, ali jednom kada uđu to znači da su zadobili vaše povjerenje. Očekujete odanost i povjerenje od svoje djece pa gradite odnos u kojem ste im prije svega prijateljica.

Lav

Strengths as a mom: Your playfulness, leadership, creativity, confidence Weaknesses as a mom: Self-centeredness, drama, too much energy, Pollyanna tendencies Your parenting style: "Lights, camera, action! The creative and dramatic Leo mama leaves her signature stamp wherever she goes. Parenting is the ultimate personal expression for you, Leo—a job you throw yourself into, heart and soul. Leos tend to be hands-on mothers, involved in every aspect of their children's lives. You take pride in raising capable, successful citizens who will grow up and do great things in the world. While you're not a mean mom by any stretch, Leo, you can be stern about your standards. You're a tough act to follow, since you tend to be a high achiever. Our Leo friend Patricia Moreno kept her fitness brand Sati Life thriving—training teachers, giving classes, filming workout videos—while juggling a toddler and infant twins. You hold yourself to very lofty standards (and meet them effortlessly), so you may not realize when you're pushing your kids too hard. Or maybe you do. And when your kid grows up to be a successful doctor, lawyer, businessperson, artist, or whatever, he'll thank you. The return on investment is worth it! Besides, your innate sense of entitlement can work to everyone's advantage, gaining your family access to exclusive schools, arts programs, and elite summer camps. Nothing can sway you when you're on a mission, and even if your kids turn out to be your polar opposite in career, lifestyle, or beliefs, you'll still have played a strong role in their upbringing. Not that you won't play as hard as you work. When a Leo mom decides to celebrate, she goes all out! You're a consummate event planner: no party or pile of presents can rival a Leo mother's lavish layout. Giving gifts is a grand occasion, and you shine in this area. Maybe some people think you're spoiling your children. To you, presents are a way of acknowledging that you know someone and took the time to find something beautiful to show it. Whether you lavish your kids with hugs and kisses, or express love by faithfully show- ing up for every important moment, there's no question: your children are truly your pride and joy. So go forth: cuddle and coddle your lion cubs. Just don't forget to teach them how to hunt and forage for themselves. They need survival skills as much as they need your fierce matriarchal protection. While a tight-knit family is a blessing, you also need to loosen the reins, letting your progeny go off and explore the wild world on their own."

Prednosti: Razigranost, kreativnost, pouzdanost, liderstvo

Slabosti: Sebičnost, preenergičnost, drama, pretjerivanje

Stil roditeljstva: Svijetla, kamera, akcija! Mama lavica je kreativna, dramatična i ostavlja svoj trag gdje god se nalazila. Roditeljstvo je posao u koji se dajete maksimalno, svim srcem i svim tijelom. Želite dati najbolje od sebe kako bi vaše dijete izraslo u samouvjerenu osobu. Volite biti umiješane u svaki aspekt života vašeg djeteta.

Ono što zacrtate želite ostvariti pa nekada niste svjesne kada pretjerujete i postavljate prevelike zadatke svojoj djeci. Ili možda jeste svjesne, jer znate da će vam biti zahvalni jednog dana, kada postanu uspješni doktori, advokati, umjetnici ili šta god požele. Ništa vam ne može stati na put do uspjeha. Čak iako je vaše dijete drugačiji tip osobe, vi i dalje imate snažnu ulogu u njegovom životu.

Međutim, kada vaše dijete nešto zasluži ne štedite nimalo. Neki će pomisliti da ste ga razmazili, ali vi kad slavite onda zaista slavite. Odličan ste organizator događaja pa su rođendani vašeg djeteta nezaboravni. Za vas su pokloni način da pokažete nekom da vam je stalo i da cijenite sve što radi za vas.

Bez obzira na koji način ispoljavate svoju ljubav prema djeci, vi ste veoma ponosni na sve što rade. Ostanite takvi, ali ih pokušajte naučiti i kako da se snalaze sami u svijetu, bez mame lavice. Nekada ostanu uskraćeni za vještine koje ste vi imali, jer mnogo toga radite za njih, a samim tim i umjesto njih.

Djevica

Strengths as a mom: Organization and structure, common sense, healthy habits, intellect Weaknesses as a mom: Judgmental tendencies, worry and neuroses, self-righteousness, tendency to overanalyze Your parenting style: "Upright/free-spirited mommy. The Virgo mother is a curious mix of contrasts. In some ways, motherhood plays to your orderly Virgo tendencies, giving you an excuse to plan, direct, and micromanage. At other moments, it brings out let loose and play. While some Virgos take to motherhood like fish to water, swapping your indie rock playlist for Yo Gabba Gabba! jams, others require an adjustment, especially if they're a bookish or introverted Virgo who cherishes personal space. The invasion of privacy that comes along with children, not to mention the land grab on your intellectual time, well, let's be honest: the rewards don't always balance out the loss. The downshift from PhD to ABC can be tough for brainy babes of the Virgo persuasion. But despite your obsessive nature, you also have a relaxed side. Your fourth house of motherhood is ruled by Sagittarius, the sign of travel, adventure, wisdom, and the higher mind. This bohemian effect offsets your anxiety and tunnel vision. It helps you see the bigger picture and trust that your kids will turn out okay. Sagittarius is an advice giver, so its influence in your chart makes you even more prone to be a walking mommy search engine among your friends. It also awakens your humorous and philosophical side, help- ing you see motherhood as a grand adventure. While some women suddenly feel 'old' and weighted with responsibility as mothers, your children can lighten you up. 'I am proud that my kids laugh all the time and they laugh with me, at me,' says Virgo mama Karen. 'We have fun.' You might read up on the work of the late pediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott, who developed the theory of the 'good enough mother.' As he believed, the way to be a good mother is to be just that, a good-enough mother—human, three-dimensional, providing a safe and nurturing environment, but not catering to your child's every need, treating her like the center of the universe, or depleting yourself. That can be a challenge for Virgos, who like to do everything perfectly. But if motherhood can teach you anything, it's how to ease up your self-critical tendencies and cut yourself some well-deserved slack."

Prednosti: Organizovanost, zdrave navike, intelektualnost, zdrav razum

Slabosti: Zabrinutost i neurotičnost, tendencija da osuđujete, stav da ste uvijek u pravu, pretjerana analitičnost

Stil roditeljstva: Vi ste mama slobodnog duha, miks kontrasta. Na neki način, majčinstvo vam omogućuje da ostvarite svoje glavne tendencije, da upravljate, planirate i pripremate za svoje dijete. S druge strane, nekad bi jednostavno voljeli pustiti sve i dati im da se igraju. Dok jedne majke plivaju u majčinstvu, kao riba u vodi, drugima je potrebno vrijeme da se prilagode. Introvertnim djevicama majčinstvo teško pada, jer odjednom imaju invaziju na svoju privatnost koju dijele sa novim bićem.

Bez obzira na vašu opsesivnu stranu, vi znate biti i opuštena mama. Vašom četvrtom kućom majčinstva upravlja strijelac, znak putovanja, avanturizma, mudrosti i višeg uma. To pomaže prilikom sagledavanja veće slike, kada ste pretjerano zabrinuti za to šta će vaše dijete napraviti. Strijelac vam pomaže da probudite svoju humorističnu i filozofsku stranu te doživite majčinstvo kao veliku avanturu. Iako se ponekad javlja frustriranost da ste odjednom stari, većinu vremena uživate u humoru svoje djece kada se osjećate jednako mlado.

Psihoanalitičar Donals Vinikot, razvio je teoriju koja vam može pomoći. Zove se teorija “biti dovoljno dobra majka”. Zaista, sve što treba jeste da budete dovoljno dobri. Ne da ispunjavate sve želje i očekujete previše. Ni od sebe ni od djeteta. Samo ispunite ono što čini dovoljno očekivano. To može biti zahtjevno za djevice, koje vole da sve urade perfektno, ali trebate naučiti da balansirate, kako bi omogućili svom djetetu zdravo odrastanje.

Objavljeno: 14/07/16

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